I’m cracking up right now, not because of an intentionally hilarious post on Facebook, but sadly because I’m an ass and I’m about to die of laughter due to a ridiculously idiotic post I have seen from an old friend on Facebook. He and I will likely never meet again, but yet we “keep up with one another” just enough to envy or degrade from afar. Is this okay, most people may say, do I REALLY need to be seeing what Goober McWhatever is up to these days; why do I even enjoy seeing other people’s shit so much on “my social network?” The conclusion I’ve come to thus far is this: why overthink it? Just enjoy it, put it out there to “the world” or just don’t. Don’t hate on the over-posters or those who fly under the radar and never “like” a damn thing, just worry about yourself and what you’re putting out in the world. All I can control is myself and I don’t want to overthink the unthinkable.
I mean, it’s really okay that your cousin posts 72 mediocre food pics a day, or that your ex posts a new status every hour announcing how much they love their new fiancé, or that your sibling’s ex’s brother’s nephew’s friend posts nothing but conspiracy theories that involve President Obama and Walt Disney. Did it really change your day that I posted a goofy update about my obsession with cheese? No. Are the negative comments necessary? No. Do the negative comments on my status posts or horrific photos I’m tagged in truly change my day? No, not unless I let them.
We talk about how others use Facebook because whether we like it or not, we’re constantly interested and intrigued by the human experience we’re not having. I think this is also where jealousy, greed, insecurities, and sadness, among many other negative human thoughts, derive. Then we take what others spew into Facebook and do what we do as individuals, we judge, envy, love, or despise the living shit out of one another and let the thoughts live and breed in our minds until we’ve decided that Facebook is a useless, ridiculous tool for tools. This is not entirely true. For example, I wouldn’t be able to revisit conversations I’ve had with some of the best friends that I’ve ever had in my life without Facebook because (to be the classically dark Mia that I can be) some of them I will never see again on this earth, not because of distance but because we as humans, well, we expire. We expire and we move on to the next. Spoiler alert, folks, you gonna die! *Scooby-Doo voice* WHHHUUUUUUUT!?!?! It’s okay, I am too, more reason to let the good in and the bad roll off our newsfeed, just more reason to focus on our own short, human experience and enjoy it as best as we can.
I could go on and on about all the terrific things about Facebook and how I use it personally, then again I could go on about all the garbage that drives me bonkers about people on Facebook or all the hilarious, hot-mess-friends that I seem to have met at some point in my life. The thing about it is, we all think we’re right and none of us really are. Are you cooler than me because you never post or “like” anything? No. Am I cooler than you because I do? No. It’s simply another outlet, not an idol to worship or a fad to hate, it’s whatever you want it to be, just like everything else is in this life. Quit taking it all so seriously or trying to figure everyone out, you’ll just overthink yourself into insanity. There’s no answer, there never really is, and that’s okay.
So my point in all this rambling nonsense from my supposed ADHD mind is this: chill out, Facebook isn’t the devil, and no one will ever be “using it right” in your glorious opinion, so just use it as you’d like and ignore the rest or peek into the lives you’d like to glimpse into, or at least glimpse into the lives that have been portrayed to be appealing, because when it all comes down to it, Beyonce or Goober McWhatever, we’re people and we’re all trying to enjoy this ride before we expire so just enjoy it and quit being an ass about everything. Basically, it really doesn’t matter unless you’ve done something amazing or something horrific, so let’s just all try to avoid the latter.
I write this because I feel like I can put my thoughts in an order that makes sense when I type it out, not so much when my thoughts are left to overthink in my crazy mind; this blog is my outlet, hate it or not, it doesn’t really matter because it has already served its purpose, I already feel better and my brain feels a bit lighter. I’m aware that I’m not the best writer but that’s okay with me, I still enjoy it. Thanks for humoring me with your viewing and I hope I haven’t offended anyone greatly with my bluntness or my occasional “dirty word,” if so, hopefully you got my message just enough to not let it bother you too much ;) Goodnight, good folks.
